5 Foreplay Techniques for Men That No One Ever Talks About (But Should!)”

Let’s be honest—when most people think of foreplay for men, it usually gets reduced to a few predictable moves. But sis, we’re way past the basics over here. It’s time to level up and explore the kind of touch, tease, and tension that really turns him on… and keeps him thinking about you all day.

Whether you’re just starting to explore each other’s bodies or you’ve been at it for years, these five under-the-radar foreplay techniques will unlock a whole new level of intimacy, anticipation, and pleasure. Ready to take notes? Let’s go!

1. Tease His Mind First (Then His Body Will Follow)

Here’s the truth: foreplay starts way before the bedroom. Men are highly visual, yes—but they’re also deeply aroused by anticipation. Send a spicy voice note during his lunch break. Whisper something suggestive in his ear while he’s brushing his teeth. Set a trap, honey.

Start the build-up early:

• A steamy text that hints at what’s to come.
• Wearing something sexy but not going there just yet.
• Catching his eye during dinner and biting your lip.

The suspense is a silent seduction—and when done right, by the time you actually touch him, he’s already halfway to heaven.

2. Play With His Inner Thighs (Not Just the Obvious)

Look, we all know the main attraction is a fan favorite. But what about the VIP area right next to it? His inner thighs are crazy sensitive—light touches there create a slow burn that drives him wild.

Try this:

• Lightly trace your fingers or the tip of your tongue along the inside of his thighs.
• Blow cool air after a warm kiss—hello, goosebumps!
• Gently tease without touching “him” directly, making him crave the contact.

Trust me, he’ll be squirming in the best way.

3. Dirty Talk… But Make It About Him

Everyone talks about dirty talk, but not many focus on affirming his desire. Men want to feel desired, powerful, and like they’re driving you crazy—in a good way.

Try phrases like:

• “I love how hard you get for me.”
• “Watching you lose control turns me on.”
• “You taste so good I could stay here forever.”

Bonus tip: Say it slowly and look into his eyes while you say it. Confidence is the real kink.

4. Take Over With a Surprise Massage… Between the Sheets

Sure, you’ve probably given him a massage before—but this one? It’s a seductive takeover. Think warm oil, dim lighting, slow pressure, and a few cheeky detours.

Use:

• A warming massage oil (vanilla or amber scent adds a luxury touch).
• Slow strokes down his back, over his glutes, and along his hamstrings.
• Incorporate your body—straddle him, drag your hair or breasts across his skin for a multi-sensory experience.

You’re not just relaxing him—you’re setting him up for complete surrender.

5. Use Your Mouth in Unexpected Places

Yes, his obvious zones are fun to explore—but the real magic happens when you kiss, suck, or lick in places he never saw coming.

Try these unexpected hotspots:

• Behind his ears (with a whisper to follow…)
• His nipples (criminally underrated and so responsive)
• The base of his spine or his lower back
• His wrists (soft kisses while holding them down—yes, please)

Your mouth is a playground—so don’t be afraid to get creative. The element of surprise? That’s where the spark lives.

Slow It Down, Then Flip the Script

Most people rush foreplay like it’s a means to an end. But slowing down is the real flex. Tease, pause, retreat. Let him beg a little. Let him feel everything. Then, when he thinks you’re done? Flip the script.

The goal isn’t just to turn him on—it’s to blow his mind and make him feel so wanted, he won’t ever forget how you made him feel.

Want More?

Bookmark this for your next night in, or better yet, send it to your group chat and share the wealth. And if you’re looking for toys, oils, or sensual tools to level things up, check out our curated picks at Vixen’s Lair—where seduction meets sophistication.

Because grown foreplay? Is smart, slow, and deeply satisfying.