5 Tips for Choosing the Perfect Intimate Toy for a Mom

This Mother’s Day, skip the expected and give her something that truly speaks to the side of her that rarely gets the spotlight: her sensuality. Whether you’re shopping for your bestie who’s a supermom, your sister who juggles it all, or even treating yourself (because you are that mom) — a well-chosen intimate toy is the self-care gift that keeps on giving.

At Vixen’s Lair, we believe Mother’s Day isn’t just about celebrating her strength — it’s about honoring her wholeness, her softness, and yes... her sensual side too.

Here’s how to choose the perfect toy to say “Happy Mother’s Day, you deserve this.”

1. Choose Something Gentle Yet Effective

Moms are often touched out, tired, and multitasking — so a toy that’s easy to use, not too loud, and brings maximum pleasure with minimal effort is key. Go for sleek designs and beginner-friendly styles.

👉 Top pick: The Textured Pin-Point Vibe — gentle where it counts, powerful when it matters, and easy to use even during nap time.

2. Go for Toys With Multiple Settings

Give her the gift of choice. Whether she’s sneaking in a little solo time or having some fun with her partner, multiple speeds and patterns offer versatility for every mood.

👉 Gift-worthy: The Ombré Bullet is compact, elegant, and has 10 vibration modes to help her reconnect with her pleasure — one vibe at a time.

3. Keep Her Lifestyle in Mind

Busy moms need toys that work with their lives — not ones that collect dust. Look for waterproof designs for bath-time relaxation and rechargeable toys for convenience.

👉 Life-saver: A discreet, travel-sized toy like our Rechargeable Bullet fits easily in her nightstand or makeup bag, making “me time” simple, anytime.

4. Prioritize Comfort & Safety

Mom’s body has been through a lot — whether through childbirth or the daily hustle. Choose toys made with body-safe, medical-grade materials that feel luxurious and gentle on sensitive skin.

👉 Always safe: All toys from Vixen’s Lair are carefully curated for quality, comfort, and safety — because you’re giving her something to feel good about and with.

5. Add a Little Extra Love

Pair her new toy with a sensual lube, a sweet note, or a cheeky gift bag. It turns a great gift into an unforgettable moment — one that’s playful, pampering, and just for her.

👉 Perfect pair: Our LubeLife Water-Based Lubricant is the ideal match — smooth, non-sticky, and makes every sensation even more divine.

💕 Because Moms Deserve Pleasure Too

This Mother’s Day, give her the kind of gift that says:
"You're not just a mom. You're still a woman. And you deserve to feel amazing."

Whether it’s a solo gift of self-love or a spicy surprise from a partner, you’ll be the one who gave her something she actually wants this year.