Outside the Bedroom
I recently read a book named “The Power of the Pussy” (don’t judge me, it was actually a pretty interesting book) and the author, Kara King, coined two terms that I thought were so funny but so true. Women have PMS (Pre-Menstrual Syndrome) but men have what she calls PEAK and PES:
PEAK or Pre-Ejaculation A** Kissing is a term she uses when guys are extremely hot and bothered and would do ANYthing for a release. So this is when they pay extra attention to their women, buy them gifts and give them all sorts of affection. Whatever you need and want from your man, ask for it at this time, in the right (feminine) way, and it's yours!
PES or Post Ejaculation Syndrome is that complete attitude shift after he gets what he needs from you. You know what I’m talking about. No explanation needed here.
As amusing as this is, men, if you have a strong minded, independent, intelligent woman, she is going to be sensitive to this…and also a little offended. Try doing these things for her when it’s not PEAK time. If you can make her feel special without the thought in the back of her mind that you’re just trying to get “some”, when PEAK time rolls around it might be a lot easier. As a matter of fact, she might not even allow you to get to that point….if you know what I’m sayin’.
Inside The Bedroom
I’m about to be a little blunt, but don’t take it personally guys, I’m just trying to help you out. Some of you get your lady into bed and throughout the entire ordeal you’re wondering how she’s gotten so stiff and cold. It’s not that she’s cold OR stiff….SHE’S BORED! And quite frankly, figuring out what she’s packing for the kids’ lunch tomorrow, or if she’s going to wear pumps or strappy sandals to work, or hoping that there’s going to be a Wendy Williams re-run when you guys are done, is much more interesting and stimulating than what YOU’RE doing on top of her at the moment. Because you’re so sexually selfish, you have no idea what your woman wants or needs in bed. You climb on, ride her like a rodeo for 10 minutes, and you’re done, not noticing that you haven’t even begun to scratch the surface of her sexual persona. Some of you would be surprised at what your lady can do in the bedroom. I heard a rapper in a song telling another man that he was “servicing” his wife. He said, “When she’s with you she’s a church girl but when she’s with me she’s a porn star”. As crazy as it sounds…it’s the truth. I’m not condoning cheating but we can’t deny the fact that it is very real. News flash: WOMEN CHEAT TOO! You and your woman’s lover could be sitting at a bar drinking, talking about your sex lives and you would have no idea that you’re both talking about the same woman. That’s because HE understands the importance of paying close attention to the needs of a woman.
STEP UP YOUR GAME. Do your homework and find out what she desires in bed. Stop by Vixen’s Lair online or in store to pick up some sexy items like lingerie, massage oils, lube, or naughty games. CLICK HERE! Do whatever it takes to have your woman grabbing the sheets off the bed and gasping for air when you’re done with her. Make it a point to blow her mind as often as you can and you will NEVER have to worry about PEAK again.